说苑/延陵季子適齊，於其反也，其長子死於嬴博之間，因葬焉。

Kongzi heard of it and said, “Jizi of Yanling is a man of Wu who is thoroughly conversant with ritual.” He sent Zigong67 to observe the proceedings.

In digging the grave pit, he did not make it so deep that it reached an underground spring, and, for coffin cerements, he used attire suited to the season. Having completed the mound, he made the monument and capstone; this was no taller than what a person might lean upon. Having heaped up the earth, he bared his left shoulder, cast his gaze on the mound to the right, and keened three times, saying, “That your bones and flesh have now been returned to the earth is destiny.

But your spirit can now go everywhere, it can now go everywhere.” Then he left.Kongzi said, “What Yanling Jizi did was consistent with ritual.” On the Three Years of Mourning